Updated: Dec 23, 2020
”So I say, if you are burning, burn. If you can stand it, the shame will burn away and leave you shining, radiant, and righteously shameless.”
From Skye Alexander’s Your Goddess Year 📖
Dates For Inviting Her: Aug 28 - Sept 3
In India, Parvati is honored with a three-day festival called Hartalika Teej, which takes place in August or September. The holiday celebrates the union of the goddess with Lord Shiva. During the festival, married women pray for the health and longevity of their husbands; single women ask the goddess for happy marriages. This week we, too, recognize Parvati and seek her blessings.
Symbols and Correspondences The daughter of Himavan, lord of the majestic Himalayas, Parvati loves mountains and rules from the 22,000-foot-tall Mount Kailash in Tibet. In Sanskrit, her name is a word for ¨mountain¨. Lotus flowers, too, are precious to her, and she's often depicted sitting on a lotus blossom or holding one in her hand.
According to Hindu myth, Parvati is the goddess of love, marriage, and fertility. The second wife of Lord Shiva, this compassionate and devoted deity took care of him while he grieved the death of his first wife. Eventually, after a great deal of effort and self-sacrifice on her part-he fell in love with her and the couple went to live on the holy mountain Kailash, where they're said to spend their time doing yoga, meditating, and engaging in sacred sex.
Known for her gentle nature, nurturing kindness, and patience, Parvati manages to keep Shiva's violent temper in check. She's also a wise counselor with an abundance of inner strength; the perfect complement to her husband, the destroyer/war god. Together they symbolize the inter-dependence of male and female energies, and thus the divine depiction of traditional marriage. As the goddess of marriage, Parvati is always shown in conjunction with Shiva, never alone. One of the most revered of the Hindu goddesses, she is an embodiment of Shakti (the feminine aspect of creation). Her power is shown in ten aspects, which are represented by other deities, including Kali (November 6-12) and Tara (June 12-18).
Parvati's festival week is the perfect time to solicit her favor if you want more joy, peace, or understanding in a romantic relationship. However, you can petition her for assistance anytime love goes awry. She can teach you the value of patience and devotion, without sacrificing your own needs, dignity, or power. If you're seeking a happy and fulfilling partnership, call on the goddess to help you attract the ideal mate.
If you live in the mountains, you'll find it easy to sense Parvati's presence way up in the clouds. Otherwise, go to a high place, even if it's the top of a tall building. Imagine you're in the rarified realm of the goddess and ask her to speak to you.
HOW TO INVITE HER
To connect with the goddess, first engage in the ancient Hindu art of hand painting with mehndi, or henna, a reddish plant-based dye. Hindu women create intricate and elaborate designs on their hands and feet. With this dye, you can find many beautiful patterns and purchase kits online. However, you may prefer to adorn yourself with symbols and images that have special meaning for you-set your intention before you begin.
Apply the henna to your hands and/or feet in any pattern that speaks to you. While applying the dye, keep your mind focused on your intention, and with each brushstroke sense Parvati's presence. Be careful not to get the dye on clothing or other materials. The henna designs will last a week or more.
With your painted hands, hold a smooth, egg-shaped stone known as a Shiva lingam. Typically, this stone is a form of brownish jasper native to India and combines both light and dark coloring, but you can find Shiva lingams naturally occurring in many places perhaps in your own backyard. Look for a stone circled by a band of a contrasting shade or one that's half-light and half dark in color. They're also available at gem/mineral shops and online. The elongated shape symbolizes the masculine force and Shiva, while the circle represents the feminine and Parvati. Together they signify the union of male and female, the balance of opposites, and the joining of body and spirit that engenders creativity.
Meditate while holding the stone. Give thanks to Parvati for guiding and protecting you, for bringing you abundance, and for helping you achieve your intention.
When you've finished, place the stone in a spot where you'll see it often to remind you that the goddess is aiding you and all is well.